stalydan asked:
Why do you think it is that you see more guys saying they've been "friend-zoned" than girls? It's hard to believe that it's a mostly male feeling.
I don’t recall saying it was restricted to males.
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‘The Friend Zone’ is when there are two people who are friends, but one person has romantic feelings for the other and then gets rejected by the other.
THAT’S IT.
It’s not supposed to be about “Oh it’s such a terrible thing being ONLY your friend” or “Oh they just ignored my feelings when I didn’t say anything” or “Oh I only wanted to get in their pants and they said no”.
Being rejected in love is a terrible, awful feeling and it makes people sad when they think they have a chance at it and then it’s taken away. Especially when they have someone who is awesome and close to them and they think things could go farther between them. The origins of the term are thus, and the actual term itself is NOT an insult. In fact, to me, it’s more insulting to think that someone cares enough about you enough to be interested romantically and then saying they never cared about JUST being your friend in the first place. Because chances are they wouldn’t have those romantic feelings in the first place if they HADN’T been your close friend.
It infuriates me when ALL THE TIME I see this term being used and abused in ways that it was NOT meant to be used/said. The ‘Friend Zone’ is NOT supposed to be an insult, it’s supposed to be a somewhat sad fact with a silver lining over the fact you still have a good friend.
No one HAS to date anyone else, no one should be guilt-tripped, forced into it, or made to think that they’re a bad person for NOT wanting to date someone. But the abuse of the term ‘Friend Zone’ is so wide-spread that what it was originally supposed to mean has been twisted 50 different ways that no one recognizes it anymore.
It went from just being a thing, to being an insult to everyone. And I now hate just hearing the term because NO ONE uses it correctly or even understands what it means anymore.
I think the term you’re looking for it unrequited love.
Anonymous asked:
only girls think friendzone doesnt exist. It does, and it sucks.
Let me explain something to you. Friend zone isn’t a place or state of being, it’s what people say to make an excuse for being rejected that doesn;t sound as insulting. I’ve dealt with males accusing me of trapping them in the “friend zone” and that really hurts. Why? because I thought they genuinely enjoyed me as a friend and when I tell them I’d rather continue the friendship instead of furthering it in more intimate ways, I’m seen as a terrible person and our friendship would end by their hands, not mine. Am I saying friends shouldn’t date friends? Of course not, I wouldn’t want to date you if I didn’t know a lot about you. Friends are amazing and can lighten up your darkest days, but don’t you think it’s unfair to insult them by saying you’re stuck being “only” their friend? Was their friendship so unappealing to you? It’s a terrible thing to say. Most people I’ve met told me they liked their friend for a very long time and then they started dating someone else. News flash, no one can read your mind. You have feelings for someone? Tell them, no one else is going to do it for you and if you take too long, tough luck. That’s your fault, not your friend you’ve been crushing on or the person they decided to start seeing instead of you. Some people forget the other person they want to be with has actual emotions, preferences and opinions.
So in short, the friend zone isn’t real and stop whining. Thank you.
When I was posting on MLPG a few days ago, it was almost exactly how it was on /co/. It was a good feel, man.
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Anonymous asked:
What was that post thing you were gonna make about doing something relating to your family? You were gonna do it in an hour, but you never did it...
I spoke to my father regarding our financial situation, which is very dangerous right now. I’m going to lose my power soon so I’m working to finish all commissions I owe before that happens or if I can make the cash quickly enough to pay the bill.
